THE POWER OF LITTLE HEART NOTES
This post is more of a personal one in relation to my marriage and husband which I don’t think I have written about much. Truth, he doesn’t want his photo on my blog and I respect that. I have struggled with how to depict my family which most definitely includes him and not share too much information. For those of you who have followed me for the last two years you know that I have taking part inThe Abundant Mama Project and most of my focus has been on me and the kids but living more abundantly includes my husband as well.
My husband and I got married 10 years ago this summer after we had been dating for about a year and half. That day was just as I had always envisioned as a girl. Family, friends and the man of my dreams. I was so lucky. I remember in the first year of marriage though all the adjustments that we had to make to transfer each of our separate lives into a combined one. I do things the way I do them and he does things the way he does them. We had to learn how to do things the way we would do them. It takes a lot of give and take. Everyone had given us the usual advice – don’t go to bed angry, make sure to communicate about everything (what he can’t read my mind?), keep the romance alive.
We added 3 children to our lives fairly fast. Not long after our 1st anniversary our first son arrived (Mr. Black Licorice on my blog), 21 months later our 2nd son (Mr. Yoda) and 26 months after him our daughter (Miss Ballerina) arrived. These pass 10 years have been dominated by the growth and nurturing of our family. Not always the growth and nurturing of our own relationship although after 10 years we have both grown in loving the familiarity that comes from knowing someone for a long time. I like to create poems or pieces of art for him at our anniversary time. However, time and creativity are not always on my side.
I do a lot of journaling and so I began going back over the last 10 years to reflect on our marriage. The good and the not so good. I know my husband likes little reminders of our love or notes of encouragement from me. Men are human and despite his very logical mind he is a romantic at heart. So this year I decided to create 10 little heart notes that I would write a special message on as a reflection of each year of our marriage. I will then hide 1 a day for him in a special place only he would find them.
Here is how I made mine:
I sat down one day trying to create some ideas in my scrapbook.
I started with just playing with watercolours to create a background in my scrapbook.
Then I played with my stamps, oil pastels, soft pencil crayons, and glitter pens and ended up with this. Then I cut up the page into 10 hearts to create little notes for my husband.